That's just not true, not of the clans I spend the most time with. AAA (at it's peak especially) always took on all comers in southern France. BAD specifically seeks out clans to go after. DB and Partizans have spent a lot of time clan hunting. From other factions I've seen German and SU clans seek out clans to fight plenty of times too, especially in key areas. You can't blame good clans when others don't want to queue against them and then they end up popping against randos.
If it wasn't for joining a clan, I'd never have kept playing the game. It really is best with friends.
Not being able to chat with my friends while I play would make me stop playing, thus hurting the population of the game, so.... no, I won't play without being able to talk to my friends. If I was going to do that, I'd play a single player game.